Chapter 1 - Love, Romance and Reality

What is love?

Let's start with romantic love (because many relationships do). It
excites, fascinates and obsesses, propelling people out of the
everyday on a magic carpet ride to a whole new world. Romantic
love can be positive. It can motivate kindness, bring wonderful
feelings that you matter and that life is good, and make you aware
of your spiritual side beyond humdrum life. It can also grow into a
deeper and more realistic love. Yet there are dangers in romance.
It can blind us to reality and cause an unwise choice of a partner.
It can be mere escapism that does not stand up in real life. Its
ending can cause pain and discouragement.

What makes romantic love so powerful? In their must-read book,
Really Relating
, David Jansen and Margaret Newman outline some
of the forces that exist in the subconscious mind – that part of us
that lies beneath the surface of our consciousness like an iceberg
and often causes 'titanic' disasters.